Chronic Marriage is a blog run by Helena Madsen, a wife, mother, writer, and counselor who lives with Muscular Dystrophy, symptoms of which are similar to those experienced in arthritis and include poor balance with frequent falls, difficulty walking, and a limited range of movement. Helena is all about living with chronic illness AND an extraordinary marriage.
Helena describes her site as follows: “Chronic Marriage is for “chronic couples” – those relationships in which chronic health issues are present – who desire not only to survive but thrive in their marriage despite living with chronic illness.”
She chronicles her many trials and errors in dealing with daily situations in her relationship and with her family. She shares her personal experiences and stories, as well as those of her clients, about life and marriage.
With her stories, she hopes to inspire hope, discredit the statistics that divorce rates are high in marriages where chronic illness exists. She believes that with any kind of adversity a marriage can face, chronic illness gives us an opportunity for intimacy that we wouldn’t otherwise have. On her free time, Helena enjoys spending time with her husband and daughter, playing with her two dogs, reading, swimming, knitting, cooking a new vegan dish or volunteering.
Chronic illness can challenge, disrupt and upheave even the strongest of marriages. It messes with your roles and routines, in the ways you and your spouse relate to one another and your sense of safety and security.
Unprepared and ill equipped, many couples view illness as the beginning of the end of their relationship. It doesn’t have to be that way at all. Illness can actually give you more opportunities for intimacy than you would otherwise have.
It’s helpful in times of stress or conflict to remember that no marriage is perfect. Believing otherwise is to believe in myth.
Every marriage struggles at times whether you’re healthy or chronically ill. The key is to keep your perspective while walking through the pain together, hand in hand and side by side.
What follows are seven common marriage myths. Perhaps you believe one or several of them? If so, it’s time to let them go.
To learn more about Helena and Chronic Marriage, please visit www.chronicmarriage.com.